Gin and Cats
A very good friend of mine holds this as the eventual end for all of us too selfish or crazy to be in relationships with other human beings. To grow old, and die alone, accompanied by gin and cats. As pathetic deaths go, I like the poetic quality of the idea. Though upon hearing me describe this as my future the other night, another friend suggesting snakes and tequila as an exciting and challenging alternative, so I may take that one on board instead.
What is so terrible about being alone? What is it that we are all so afraid of? I don’t care if I die alone or surrounded by a cast of thousands, I’ll still be fucking dying and I can’t imagine I’ll be happy about it. Frankly, I would rather die alone than spend my life with someone who wasn’t good enough. Someone once told me you shouldn’t marry someone you can live with, you should marry someone you can’t live without. There is no-one on earth that I cannot live without, and I doubt there ever will be.
Now who can explain to me exactly why this should worry me?
July 4th, 2006 at 12:04 pm
I live alone - and enjoy it. Recently, I visited my aunt (who has lived alone since widowed 20 odd years ago) and was a tad freaked out. She lives alone, and is very odd. I understand it somewhat, as you put things in places and noone can fuck it up. If you mess the place - so be it. When someone new comes in, it’s like your world ends.
I like living alone - it gives me space and company when required. I advocate your choice of solitude - perhaps we could be solitary together :-)
July 4th, 2006 at 2:51 pm
you can be married, live together, love each other, and still be alone. everyone is their own world, and i don’t think anyone can truly know another person. you can figure out enough to predict them, but even at that, you still only enter the outer atmopsphere of the true core of his or her being. the best people can hope to do is sustain an orbit around each other, and try not to collide.
July 5th, 2006 at 12:40 pm
YAY you’re not dead!!!
Anyways I was thinking about this bit “you shouldn’t marry someone you can live with, you should marry someone you can’t live without.” And I was thinkin that that made no sense…cos there is never ever anyone you physically cannot live without unless possibly they’re your siamese twin and are carrying your heart and/or lungs for you but let’s admit that that’s an extreme example ;). What’s the point in having someone you can’t live without? Makes more sense to me to have someone you don’t want to live without. Then it’s 2 people making a decision instead of being driven by the necessity of survival :)
It’s very warm in Germany!! Was good to see you the other day and NO I haven’t found you an Irish course yet but that’s cos I forgot…completely…until now :D Proving that this post has served a valuable purpose!!! =) *hugs* m=)
July 6th, 2006 at 10:12 am
“Every living thing dies alone”
Humans operate best with other humans…
when they cease to operate it doesn’t really matter much…
You don’t marry someone to die with them but to live with them…
and God is a matchmaker as well as a watchmaker